Have you ever noticed the tiny tots running after the birds, or fascinated by the soap bubbles? They think they can catch those birds…Life’s events and happiness are illusive in the same way…we are chasing them because we do not know that they are temporary just like those soap bubbles. You definitely need to enjoy and cherish everything that you have, especially family, friends, job, home, even if it is a rented one, look for the beauty in everything because everything that you have today will be replaced by something else in a week, month, year or in few years.

When you are in mid twenties you wonder how your teenage years went by fast and that now you cannot do what you could do in those years, then you have no time to think of your age until you are in late thirties when you are appalled that you will soon be in your forties but that doesn’t bother you so much as you cross fifty years of age. At fifty, you think about your retirement, you worry about your children, your future and you notice you have developed health conditions which leads to mid life crisis. That’s when you begin to think that you could have planned your life better or saved little more. By mid fifties, you realize that your years flew by as you raised your children and you are now gradually getting behind the scene and your children are getting to the front seat in life. They are the drivers and sometimes give you directions. You look back and it feels that life is like a dream…

As I sing the rhyme ‘row, row, row a boat…’ to my grandson, it makes so much more sense now than it did when I learned it in kindergarten.

No one is permanent in any place. When you have the job, it is important to act like an ant, save for the rainy day. There is no security in life. Security lies inside you. I have chosen to enjoy the time with my grandson. I know this will not last long; soon he will go to school and will have his interests. Then I will find something else to enjoy and contribute.

Take life easy, one step at a time. Learn to appreciate and value all that you have. It is okay to have high goals, ambitions and pursue your interests. They will generate creativity and imagination but choose to avoid frustration, anger, jealousy, sorrow, fear any and all negative emotions. Try not to compare yourself with anyone else because each of us is a unique flow of stream. I learned this when I was in high school. It is not worth brooding over something that is so insignificant in the macro perspective of life. We all have our own strengths.

While driving on a highway you cannot compare your car with another one on the street in model, color, speed or destination. We all need to follow the rules, respect another driver and drive to our destination. Life is exactly the same way. Each of us has our own path in life; we need to follow the rules- extend dignity and respect to every individual that comes in our life for no one is permanent on this earth. You and I are nothing but a passing phase!!

There is always one person better than the other in life due a variety of reasons, maybe financially better off, had a great role model, teacher or some advantage over the other. Not everyone can be or need to be number one. Life is not a competition. When you develop this awareness, I guarantee that you have learned to LIVE and can live a stress free life. Your physical and mental health will be better. You will live within your means and you will be more at peace within yourself. Our life is for us to live through not to race through!

Living is enjoying, cherishing, experiencing peace from within, and appreciating with a sense of gratitude.

In today’s world, where competition has taken the lead in every aspect of life, no wonder the stress is high and human health is affected worldwide- there is a rise in medical conditions, resulting in high insurance costs, then there is politics on who gets the medical and who does not.

What if you made less than someone else? What if you missed a game? What if you didn’t watch a movie? Nothing is lost. Learn to LIVE life!

With the advances in technology, though it is an extraordinary invention of our time, we need to limit our usage of them and learn to spend quality time with family face to face. Make it a point to have a get together once a month, either with family or friends. Take a vacation every four months or six months. Spend your time in your backyard or park. If you live in an apartment, spend an hour in the balcony. If you don’t have one, create a quiet area maybe with a small water fountain and dim light to relax.

Spend your time talking to a young child or a senior. Take the time to listen to a senior person talking on a regular basis. It can be parents, uncles & aunts, or just any close older member that you know. I did that with my mother who was 80 plus every Friday evening for two hours. It motivated her to share, expel emotions and in the process relaxed me. I learned more about and from my mother during that time than ever before. I learned a lot about her experiences in life, the lessons she learned, the relationships she appreciated, her regrets, her dreams, her ambitions, her achievements and more. One day she went to bed and didn’t wake up in the morning. She was gone forever. She did not have any medical condition. What a way to live and exit from this world!

You do not have to spend lot of money but make it a point to relax every day, every week.

Learn to accept obstacles, impediments, obstructions, and challenges. It is part of life, just like a tiger hunting a deer. It is but nature. We cannot feel sorry and try to protect the deer. There is no one on this earth without challenges. Each one experiences a different one than what you have. That’s why the support group is very helpful for each member experiences the similar challenge and can relate to each other.

Once you understand ‘Life is but a dream’ everything is inconsequential except your peace of mind. So, row, row, row a boat, GENTLY down the stream!!



Source by Vijaya Jayaraman

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